I wrote this post before the dreadful attack on Republican Representatives during a practice between them and Democratic representatives. This is an annual fundraising baseball game event. At a time when these two groups seldom work together, for the attack to come when they were working together seems more horrifying.
I’ve revised quite a bit. 🙂 Words have power, folks. You don’t have to look far to see examples of terrible results from someone’s senseless and hurtful words. The recent story of the young man who had been egged on to commit suicide makes my heart ache for the pain this kid endured.
What I originally wrote had to do with people responding to “Thank you” with their own “Thank you” rather than saying “Your welcome.” Given what happened on Wednesday, this issue has fallen to less than insignificant.
And the following seems even more important.
The incivility we see every day on TV on talk shows and on interview and in hearings with people talking over each other is rude and something I was taught was not polite.
What’s your definition for “Civility?
My computer Thesaurus suggests words that have a similar meaning. Here they are:
Politeness Courtesy Courteousness Respect
Graciousness Good Manners
The antonym is Rudeness.
Every time I’ve assumed, I’ve messed up.
What the heck happened to the “old school” rule not to talk when someone else is talking?
Can we not take turns? Wouldn’t we be able to hear and understand each other better?
Think of “The Talk” or “The View” or any Sunday morning Political Show? People talk and shout over each other all the time. To the point, that I don’t watch the first two shows anymore.
And name calling is used only when the person doing that doesn’t believe in the strength of their logical arguments. It’s used to put down someone. I always explained to kids that those using that tactic feel really bad about themselves and put down others to make themselves seem bigger.
There have been several times in my own life when I’ve been involved in heated discussions. I’m fairly passionate about things I believe in and don’t mind speaking up.
I remember a time at a meeting when one man stood up, interrupted me while I was speaking, and shouted at me. Was his behavior intimidating? You better believe it. Then others jumped in and it became a real Donny Brook. Well, no blows were thrown, but words flew back and forth across the table. The sad thing is that kind of behavior really stifles most people and prevents them from being comfortable speaking out. Better decisions are made when everyone gets a chance to be heard.
The behavior only stifled me for that meeting but even today I won’t talk over someone. If several people are talking over each other, I back off. (Remember, I don’t watch the two TV shows anymore.)
I can disagree completely with someone’s position on issues. I can think they live in an alternative universe, but it is never okay for me to call names or to use violence to express myself.
What kind of role models are adults being with this rude behavior? How do we expect our kids to use “good manners” when many people they see in the media are calling names, shouting, and belittling? I believe we’ve got to be able to talk to and LISTEN to each other. Nothing is ever solved with intimidation. I’m sure I’m going to have to deal with this issue in a future book.
What are your thoughts about this? Am I just too “old school” and I need to get on board with this newer way of attempting to communicate? And what do we do to turn around this, what I think is, destructive behavior. In the meantime, I hope you’ll join me praying for those involved in Wednesday’s shooting. Love to hear from you.
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