How much time do you spend on your iPhone (or whatever you use to communicate with friends and family)? The reason I’m asking is on Wednesday I ran across a video on my phone about how much time we spend on phones as opposed to communicating directly with “real” people. Thanks to Janet Glasser for posting the video. I think this link may take you to the video.

 It strikes me this issue is a little like the difference between e-books and “real” or print books. I was one of those who said I’d never read an e-book because it just wasn’t real! (I also said I’d never do Facebook!) Definitely one of those “never say never” things. LOL william-iven-19844-unsplash

Photo by William Iven on Unsplash

When I first started with all things in the cyber-sphere, I did everything on my computer. Now I notice, except for blogs and books which I still prefer to read on the big screen or my Kindle, I do a lot on my phone. Because it’s right there, you know?

The guy in the video was making the case for how bad keeping our face in the phone was for us, as opposed to talking directly to someone or just being by ourselves. He suggests that we are addicted to the instant gratification that comes from all the little pings. He mentioned in a restaurant how when one party goes to the restroom, the other immediately picks up his/her phone. Hate to confess I’m a guilty party.

IMG_0781 I had a personalized cover for many years, but had to go to a plain one that protected the phone better when I dropped it, which I did often.

Then he gave the example of being in a meeting with the phone on the table. It rings and the person looks and says, “I can get that later.” And then he feels good because he didn’t answer, but the message sent is you who I’m with are not important.  Again, I was in a church meeting the other day, and I did just exactly that. ☹

Now, I didn’t used to do this. Somehow in recent years, I’ve let the phone control me. I almost always look, even if I don’t answer right then. I never thought of the message I was sending to those around me.

Not like I need another self-improvement task, but I’m going to work on this. What about you? Do you have a “no phones” at meal time rule? Do you look every time it beeps or sings or chirps? How do you feel when someone checks their phone when they’re with you? Have I over-reacted? Is this just a part of our new normal? Hope you get a chance to watch the video. Love to hear from you.


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5 responses to “Addiction

  1. Another thought-provoking post, Marsha. I’m guilty, too, of picking up my phone far too often to check it. Besides the fact that this may cause others offence, as you say in your post, I also feel that my phone has made me far less creative. I no longer spend time day-dreaming or just plain “thinking”. The phone is always there to distract me from my own ideas. I’d love to get rid of it, but how?

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    • Hey, Helena. You nailed it on technology steeling our creative time. I’ve thought about getting off FB, but I love that I can keep up with friends like you and even family. The addiction part of the whole deal is scary. Addictions are hard to be medium about. It’s like go all in or not do at all. Yet this is something I think we need to find a medium for. The good thing now is I’m conscious now of what I’ve been doing, so there’s hope of finding that medium. Thanks for stopping by. Always good to hear from you. 🙂

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  2. Hello Marsha. We are visiting our new grandson. I bet I use my cellphone about once a month and sometimes not even that. I use Bill’s more for taking photos, but that’s it. I am definitely not addicted to the cellphone. I love when we are on trips and there is no phone, computer, anything like that.

    Now the landline is different. I get hour long phone calls sometimes daily from family and a few friends. I actually don’t like talking on the phone much anymore. My father would probably fall over if he were alive because he was always telling me to get off the phone with my friends.

    I hate seeing people on their phones in a restaurant. I don’t think it’s polite to use your cellphone at someone’s home. It’s ridiculous to see people out in nature on their cellphones, etc. 🙂

    I am probably more addicted to FB. I wish I wasn’t. I am addicted more to my camera. 🙂

    Wonderful post. Have a great weekend…Susan

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  3. Hey, Susan.I’m not surprised that you’re not hooked on the cell phone. You’re such a “real” person–all about your family, gardening, baking. “Real” things. I LOLed about your father. I, too, think it’s weird to see two people sitting at a table and both are on their cells. Enjoy your grandson and family. Thanks for stopping by. 🙂


  4. Thanks for sharing this video. I posted it on FB because I feel when a person keeps checking their phone when with me, I am not worthy of keeping their attention. Am I that boring? How can anything be that important to ignore a person sitting right next to you? And when playing a game with a group, I hate it when someone leaves their phone on the table so they can glance at it. The player usually loses track of their turn or what’s happening on the board. Can you tell from the tone of this comment, this is a pet-peeve of mine? Perhaps someone needs to write a book on cell phone etiquette? My cell phone is usually in my purse and turned off. That’s probably maddening for friends who are trying to call me. But, we have a home phone also, so they can always catch me. I can only imagine how bad the productivity at work must be nowadays with people checking their phones instead of paying attention to their job. Good thing I am no longer a boss!!! LOL.
    JQ Rose


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