How much time do you spend on your iPhone (or whatever you use to communicate with friends and family)? The reason I’m asking is on Wednesday I ran across a video on my phone about how much time we spend on phones as opposed to communicating directly with “real” people. Thanks to Janet Glasser for posting the video. I think this link may take you to the video. https://www.facebook.com/sandralee.hensberg/videos/10157156098360799/UzpfSTEwMDAwMjY0MTI3MDk0MDoxOTU5MzY4NTYwODI3ODM0/
It strikes me this issue is a little like the difference between e-books and “real” or print books. I was one of those who said I’d never read an e-book because it just wasn’t real! (I also said I’d never do Facebook!) Definitely one of those “never say never” things. LOL
Photo by William Iven on Unsplash
When I first started with all things in the cyber-sphere, I did everything on my computer. Now I notice, except for blogs and books which I still prefer to read on the big screen or my Kindle, I do a lot on my phone. Because it’s right there, you know?
The guy in the video was making the case for how bad keeping our face in the phone was for us, as opposed to talking directly to someone or just being by ourselves. He suggests that we are addicted to the instant gratification that comes from all the little pings. He mentioned in a restaurant how when one party goes to the restroom, the other immediately picks up his/her phone. Hate to confess I’m a guilty party.
I had a personalized cover for many years, but had to go to a plain one that protected the phone better when I dropped it, which I did often.
Then he gave the example of being in a meeting with the phone on the table. It rings and the person looks and says, “I can get that later.” And then he feels good because he didn’t answer, but the message sent is you who I’m with are not important. Again, I was in a church meeting the other day, and I did just exactly that. ☹
Now, I didn’t used to do this. Somehow in recent years, I’ve let the phone control me. I almost always look, even if I don’t answer right then. I never thought of the message I was sending to those around me.
Not like I need another self-improvement task, but I’m going to work on this. What about you? Do you have a “no phones” at meal time rule? Do you look every time it beeps or sings or chirps? How do you feel when someone checks their phone when they’re with you? Have I over-reacted? Is this just a part of our new normal? Hope you get a chance to watch the video. Love to hear from you.
Book Signing: February 15 Haltom Public Library–A Night of Romance 6:30- 8:30. Authors, baskets, chocolate, and books. What could be better! The flyer above is from last year, so the date is wrong, but you get the idea.